Hello friends! 🙂
I am so happy to be bringing you this blog! This is perhaps one of the most important key components to you living the life of your dreams! The life you deserve! The very fact that I get to write this for YOU excites me! 😉
HAVE YOU EVER JUST WISHED THAT OTHERS WOULD RESPECT YOU MORE? VALUE YOU MORE? LISTEN TO YOU MORE?
I am certain that at one point or another in our lives – we have all experienced these desires.
I was at a point in my life many years ago where I just could not seem to attract positive people. I became involved in poisonous relationships that were unhealthy for me and I was hitting a brick wall every time I tried to do something good!
WHY? Oh, the infamous question…. WHY?
Now, looking back… many years later, many hours spent healing and many positive people later I know the answer.
I was attracting what I was putting out! Simply put… if you do not value, love, treasure and respect yourself, how can you expect others to do this? Simply put, you cannot.
You must start by going back to the drawing board. Wipe the slate clean with yourself and start fresh. This is not easy, in fact it is much easier said than done. It is however, possible and WORTH IT.
How do you do this? I am not just a gal who is going to give you 1/2 the answer. I am giving you the WHOLE answer based on my life and my experiences.
You must start by being aware of your thoughts. Every time you think a negative thought it is key that you acknowledge it and do a REPEAT.
**Note – even when you do not believe yourself you must do this!
I remember looking in the mirror one day after being negative with myself and with tears pouring down my cheeks I must have told myself 20 times “You are beautiful, you are beautiful. Ashley you are beautiful”
This is one of those moments that was just snapped into my memory – a picture never to be forgotten.
You must master speaking to YOURSELF as you want others to speak to you friends.
The second thing you must do is heal. Stop surviving! Stop just “moving forward” Just STOP. Acknowledge your hurts and your pains. Face those things that yes… may have contributed to who you are… but nearly killed you at the same time.
I learned Gods love through my husband. He forced me to realize that I was living in a flight or fight mode (nearly my WHOLE LIFE!) and I was a survivor in everything I did, an overachiever and a perfectionist. Yes, in moderation these things are good – but more often than not, they are key signs of hurt and pain.
I am so good now at looking at people who seem like they have the whole world at their fingertips and just seeing how bad they are hurting and how much pain they really are in.
The third step friends is believe. Believe that you are deserving of the best things in life. Those things that God wants you to experience! Richness, wholeness, love and serenity! NOT PAIN.
So today, I encourage you to read and re-read this post. Print it out and share it and start the steps towards true health and healing. While your heart mends …. you will experience true worth and joy knowing that you are truly at peace. With YOU.
Love and happiness,